Anyone who knows me knows I am a planner. Not only to I know my schedule for the rest of the day but I know what I am doing the rest of the week – and I know where I will be and approximately what I will be doing for each major holiday, family birthday, and community event from now until 2015. This is outrageous. Granted, at least 50% of my current plans will change but honestly, knowing I have a general plan for what is coming makes me feel so much better!
It is a huge relief to know that I have already considered my options and have decided on a course of action so when the event arises I don’t have any big decisions to make – I made those decisions at least 4 months ago. We all have our own ways of relieving situational anxiety or anxiety around certain events/functions. Mine is to have a plan (along with a plan B,C, and D – just for good measure).
What does yours look like? How well does it work?
Is your anxiety relief a nervous habit or does it serve a real purpose?
How intentional are you with relieving those feelings of worry?
As intentional as I am with making plans and trying to take care of my own anxiety in advance, I find that when plans have to change at the last second I go into panic mode, I am mad at everyone, and I can ruin what was supposed to be a good day. That is where I need some work – to make my intentional plan but to have flexibility as well. You know how healthy trees bend and sway in the wind but they don’t break and they have a destination, a purpose – to grow up and out!
With that being said here is your homework:
Examine the ways you try to manage your anxiety. The ways you plan or soothe yourself. Look at the front end and how you accomplish that but then look at the back end where either it worked, it didn’t work, or things shifted. What was that like? What needs to shift?
Working with anxiety is like that – we all need to adjust a bit here and there until we get things right. Peace is not a destination it is a process with multiple opportunities to grow and learn.1
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